"Some advice for you Carlene.... don't think about it so much, don't listen to your friends who have no idea how to have a relationship for relationship advice, and just take things slower than you think you should."
It seems so simple. But it's so true.
As women, I feel like we over-analyze, we critique every word, action, movement... In the moment it feels necessary. Society has driven us as women to feel like we need to know what he is thinking 24/7. We need to know where this is going. We need to know if this guy is "the one". We need to seek the advice of all our closet girlfriends, maybe even women we don't even know, as to what is going on, if its worth continuing, if he should be written off by now...
But do we really? Isn't the beauty of getting to know someone the idea of NOT knowing them and NOT knowing where its going? Isn't that the special part about spending time with someone: to live through hardships & good times together and eventually develop feelings without the harsh opinions of others interrupting?
People make mistakes. People forget to call. People forget to text back. People fall asleep. People get too drunk. Sometimes people just don't feel like talking to anyone at all. Things happen. I know I've been guilty of all of the above. There are times when we need to write a person off -- male or female. But Colin reminded me that need to let people go in your life in accordance with how you feel. You need to follow your intuition, regardless of how it will look to others. If it feels right, it feels right - and nobody but you will know that feeling. Not your mother, your best friend, your sister... nobody but you.
Following your intuition will only lead to good things. You may still question your actions and decisions, but there will be no need to - you went with your gut and at the end of the day, it's usually the best choice.
Those are my thoughts on love for the day.
And thank you Colin -- for keeping the faith of finding love alive within me!
Xoxo,
Carlene
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